tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post114358863399419557..comments2023-10-31T09:18:13.029-07:00Comments on MOMMY GUILT - Whinings & Joys of a Working Mom: Dear Ex:mommyguilthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08464912775515544036noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143835075544842332006-03-31T11:57:00.000-08:002006-03-31T11:57:00.000-08:00All the stuff you ranted and raved about sucks and...All the stuff you ranted and raved about sucks and I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. People do mean and vengeful things before,during and after a divorce but disowning your child isn't on the list. That isn't even an option. <BR/>Parents love their children unconditionally. That's the law.<BR/><BR/>I have read SmallBoy's blog and he just seems like the sweetest darn kid....filled with love and admiration for his family. How could his own father ban him from his home? Even criminals on death row have visits from their parents who still love them.<BR/><BR/>I totally believe in karma so what your ex is dishing out will come back to him 10 times that amount. I've seen it happen.<BR/><BR/>In the meantime,SmallBoy has the love of his family (minus the sperm donor) and although he probably feels like this is a huge loss in his life,he will be better off in the long run.<BR/><BR/>As for the other children, what a damn shame that they have to feel torn like this. Your ex is more than a F&^%$#@ piece of S&^%.....I doubt he even realizes what he has lost.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13515763237735185174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143822881863435272006-03-31T08:34:00.000-08:002006-03-31T08:34:00.000-08:00I can't say it enough...thank you...to each and ev...I can't say it enough...thank you...to each and every one of you who left a comment, and even to those who just read and clenched their fists together, too angry to leave a comment... <BR/><BR/>Your support and occasional nudges are worth more to me than you know. There are things that I need to, for some reason, justify doing...one is taking that rat bastard to court and ripping out his heart, per Marti, and feeding it to the vultures. I know it's what I SHOULD do, but I've always been afraid. Ex is the king of intimidation (yes, Dad, you nailed it right on the head), and I've always been terrified to stand up to him. <BR/><BR/>Mama Bear's not afraid, though. Mama Bear's showing her teeth and her claws. Mama Bear's ready to fight for her cubs...all of them. (First, Mama Bear has to find a really good attorney and child advocate, though).<BR/><BR/>Again, my sincerest thanks and love and hugs and vibes and everything else to all of you. Roni - I will make sure to give girl that hug - btw, she won our house NCAA brackets by default.<BR/><BR/>Loves to all of you!!!!!!!<BR/>Christinamommyguilthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08464912775515544036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143818623155073322006-03-31T07:23:00.000-08:002006-03-31T07:23:00.000-08:00My heart is breaking. I really, really, really hat...My heart is breaking. <BR/><BR/>I really, really, really hate men like this. My heart really breaks for Girl. I think all of us women know that crazy love we have for our Daddies. No matter how bad they may treat us. No matter how wonderful a day may be. We're always torn about our Daddies. And that's just from a normal upbringing! Give Girl a huge hug for me.Ronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13475385371083791264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143688220367301062006-03-29T19:10:00.000-08:002006-03-29T19:10:00.000-08:00MommyG,Large, Stupid & Drunk is quite a combinatio...MommyG,<BR/>Large, Stupid & Drunk is quite a combination. I happen to know because I was a Medium, Stupid immature,self serving, drunk.<BR/><BR/>I thank you and your sister for forgiving me and God for making it happen.<BR/><BR/>I fear that "EX" will never see the light. I also expect that there will be another mommy left holding the bag in the near future.<BR/><BR/>His M.O. is that of intimidation and Might makes right. Shout down anyone ( not just you )who dares disagree with him. Belittle anyone who isn't as glorious as he is.<BR/><BR/>No amount of counseling mental or Physical ( if ya know what I mean ) will help anyone unwilling to accept it.<BR/><BR/>You know yourself that I was ignorant to the behavior patterns of small boy until I found out what it was about.<BR/>"EX" knows but will not accept it. How could HE...the great one have had anything to do with that stuff?<BR/><BR/>I love you and commend you and PC, Large BOY and Girl for doing all that you can to make the best of unchangeable situation.<BR/>It sounds like if it were not for girl's heartstrings that you would be better off with no contact at all.<BR/><BR/>I feel that you could legally do more than is being done at this time but I don't have to live with your everyday situation.<BR/><BR/>It's a great thing that you have this blog, and all the folks who support and love you.<BR/><BR/>I know you will keep on being the great Guilty Mommy that you are.<BR/>In the milliseconds that you may have to do it.......take care of and love yourself.<BR/>If you have an empty bucket, you cannot offer anyone else a cool drink! Pat them all on the head and let them know that I love them all.<BR/>DabAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143687763089611312006-03-29T19:02:00.000-08:002006-03-29T19:02:00.000-08:00Never, repeat, never get between a mother lion and...Never, repeat, never get between a mother lion and her cubs. She will rip your heart out of your chest, tear it to shreds, then feed it to the vultures.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143665648742945632006-03-29T12:54:00.000-08:002006-03-29T12:54:00.000-08:00Your Ex is a pitiful excuse for a human being, nev...Your Ex is a pitiful excuse for a human being, never mind a father ... the mere fact that he shows such obvious disdain (i dont know what else to call it) for your younger son -- for something that is entirely out of his control -- I am so sorry for the pain this is causing all of youMama Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06678988558532254054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143660228100026182006-03-29T11:23:00.000-08:002006-03-29T11:23:00.000-08:00i agree with laura--you have said it all beautiful...i agree with laura--you have said it all beautifully and passionately and with a lionesses ROAR. i am roaring along with you. i am FURIOUS with ex. FURIOUS. i feel for you, for your kids, especially for Smallboy. he is such a dear, such an incredibly smart, sensitive, wonderful guy with SO MUCH MORE COURAGE THAN YOUR EX could even have. it physically pains me to hear of his stupidity, selfishness, ignorance, and insensitivity. how can he live with himself? i feel for Largeboy and Girl. how ghastly for him to put them in such a position. his behavior is SHAMEFUL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143645417656430302006-03-29T07:16:00.000-08:002006-03-29T07:16:00.000-08:00You have said it all my dear. All I can add is GR...You have said it all my dear. All I can add is GRrrrrrrrr and he best hope that I never have to see him again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143640077066403732006-03-29T05:47:00.000-08:002006-03-29T05:47:00.000-08:00Christina, I feel so helpless when I read about Ex...Christina, I feel so helpless when I read about Ex. I feel like I have NOTHING helpful to suggest in any way. My husband's ex does so many hurtful things to their (our) daughter... Kate is almost 16 and therapy is helping a lot. <BR/><BR/>I think she now understands that her mom is "damaged" (word the therapist used) and just isn't capable of making any better choices than she does. This line of reasoning angers me, because I believe any adult is capable of making the right choices, especially where a child is concerned. But this seems to make Kate feel better- understand that she hasn't done anything wrong, and maybe we will all start to accept that we will never be able to change her mom.<BR/><BR/>But, your situation is so much more complicated because there are 3 children involved and neither one of you is going to just move far away. (Don't you wish he would??!! Maybe one of us can find him a job!!!)gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16104742026667801816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143628750684193312006-03-29T02:39:00.000-08:002006-03-29T02:39:00.000-08:00My 11 year old Aspie belongs to the X-gen games fo...My 11 year old Aspie belongs to the X-gen games forum - they're very tolerant there - and to the age specific area on wrong-planet which is by Aspies for Aspies.<BR/><BR/>Poor Smallboy. He is probably too young to remember that Dad just has this quirk where anything clever or different or that he can't control gets called stupid. I bet Mum was called stupid, lots, and I bet Bigson can back that up. Daddy's stupid so he calls things he doesnt understand stupid and hopes people wont find out?<BR/><BR/>Sorry - but to be honest, if the only way to save my son's self esteem was to tell him poor daddy has bigger, worse special needs and cant help being odd and wrong all the time - I'd do it. Even if I was still married to the guy.<BR/><BR/>HugsCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02646936995485109020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143607218816085742006-03-28T20:40:00.000-08:002006-03-28T20:40:00.000-08:00Boy...this is a GREAT letter...may I please take i...Boy...this is a GREAT letter...may I please take it directly to his house and read it to him??? And to New wife too!! What is the matter with them!!??....I love the acorn falling FAR from the tree. You and PC are wonderful....aren't the kids all SO lucky to have you!!Hang in there!! Love, MeemAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143605410876540712006-03-28T20:10:00.000-08:002006-03-28T20:10:00.000-08:00The saving grace of all of this is that acorns do ...The saving grace of all of this is that acorns do NOT always fall close to the tree. <BR/><BR/>That LargeBoy and Girl are able to show compassion for a reprehensible waste of DNA is commendable. That compassion is no doubt a result of having one decent set of parents.Wade Rankinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12986780783735604000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143596732410700292006-03-28T17:45:00.000-08:002006-03-28T17:45:00.000-08:00Yeah!Get lost,maaaan!-(with no dignity)P.C.Yeah!Get lost,maaaan!-(with no dignity)P.C.mommyguilthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08464912775515544036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12434736.post-1143595700507640292006-03-28T17:28:00.000-08:002006-03-28T17:28:00.000-08:00I don't think there is much more to add. You have...I don't think there is much more to add. You have stated everything beautifully. I don't even know him and I want to smack him upside the head. Keep doing what you are doing - your support is the very best thing for him. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com