Let's Talk About Jobs

Now you never heard this from me, but if someone found a job for you, never asked you if you wanted it, told you any details about it, but told those who would be your supervisors that you would be there, you'd be a little taken aback, wouldn't you?

Then if you found out that you would be driving several people to the job and working hours that you didn't expect you'd still be a little p.o.'d, right?

And then, what if you found out that there were other undesirable factors (including, but not limited to the job hours, factors that I cannot go into) that went into this job that you never asked anyone to find for you and never applied for or accepted? You'd be a little more than ticked.

What if, because you opted not to take this job after finding all of the undesirable information, including a horrible schedule (that, when you were FINALLY told that you were starting work on Monday, you'd be working from 11 - 4 or 5, 5 days/wk with enough time to find something better AND to see your wife and kids, when in actuality you'd be working open to close 7 days/wk), that you never asked, applied for, or accepted you got chastized for it?

What if you are helping to care for a child who needs every bit of attention and extra time you can give him? Hell, if I could afford it, I'd quit my job, take all the training classes I could and work with him and devote my time to him! Personally, since I can't do that, even with two incomes, I can use all of the extra help I can get at home. Neither of us can afford to be away from the house until midnight or later 7 days/wk. It takes two of us. It takes more than that, but right now, that's what we're doing.

There are a lot of other things in our house that need help, especially finanically. That doesn't mean, though, that one of us needs to go out and work 12-24hrs/day/7days/wk. It means that we need to find a way to make due until our financial situation gets better.

Now, don't get me wrong, the thought that went into "securing" this job was wonderful, kind, and clearly generous. If all the information were known ahead of time, including that there was this opportunity, and if time had been given, even for an interview to find out about the job, what the hours were, and what was expected, and also about the chaufeurring of staff to and from the job, perhaps all of this could have been avoided and no one would be left feeling like crap about himself right now.

There is enough stress having financial difficulties and having a child whose very services require more money than we'll make (unless the band gets discovered), and a lenghty court battle with Ex to get MORE money from him, that being chastized about not taking a job under these circumstances can really hurt deeply...but you didn't hear this from me.